Temptations if not taken care of in time will lead to adultery. It's as simple as that. You might say, there's nothing wrong with a little flirting, but sadly enough that's the same thought many people had before they had an affair.
When you get married, you must set boundaries for your relationship. Construct walls, create a fortress for your marriage, rules that pertain to your family. Inside that fortress the only ones allowed to enter should be God, you, your spouse and your children, that's it. This fortress will protect your marriage from outside forces that would want to destroy your marriage.
It is normal to feel attracted to other people outside of your marriage, even if you're happy, but the problem occurs when you act out on your feelings.
Adultery takes its process. It begins with attraction, then leads to opportunity and it finally occurs when you fail to take precautions.
Here are some rules you can create for your marriage. These rules are the walls that protect your relationship. Of course you have to set your own rules for your own family, in which both husband and wife must agree on.
Again, this rules don't mean anything if you don't follow them. What does it matter if a fortress has strong walls, if the door is wide open.
Some personal rules to protect yourself can be:
1) Don't allow yourself to think about being with another person, because thoughts lead to actions.
2) Don't flirt, because it tells others you are available.
3) Stay away from dangerous situations, because everyone is fallen and can be tempted.
Some suggestive rules and boundaries for your marriage can be:
(remember that you have to set your own rules and boundaries for your family )
1) Don't have lunch or dinner alone with a friend of the opposite sex. Don't find yourself alone with a friend of the opposite sex. For example, if you're alone at home and your spouse is at work, don't allow friends of the opposite sex to visit you.
2) Don't discuss intimate issues with friends of the opposite sex. For example, if you're having sex problems with your spouse, this is not something that you have to share with a friend of the opposite sex.
3) His friends are her friends, her friends are his friends. Have the same friends. Example, the wife doesn't like one of the husband's female friends, but he says, she is my friend. Here I would suggest that your relationship to your wife is more important than your friendship to that woman. This is what I meant by creating a fortress that only you and your spouse should be allowed to enter. If you allow this female friend to enter the fortress, problems in your marriage will begin.
4) Always be accountable to your spouse and be open about your friendships. By maintaining openness in your marriage and boundaries outside, you will keep your marriage happy and healthy.
Now these are suggestive rules which means that you have to create your own rules for your marriage according to rules that make both partners comfortable.
Now this is not to say that friends are bad, they're not, otherwise they wouldn't be friends. But friends should be there to help you strengthen your marriage. A spouse's friend should be a friend to the marriage. If you're relying on a friend, for advice and support, that is not a friend of the marriage then that's where temptations can arise. Seek advice and support from friends that will always encourage you and help you strengthen your marriage. A friendship should pose no danger to your marriage, but on the contrary should be a helping stone.
Seeing your marriage as a fortress and creating rules or walls to protect this fortress, is what will keep your marriage from adultery. Setting boundaries with people outside your marriage, is what will keep temptations to a minimum and in the end will only strengthen your marriage.
Wishing Your Marriage the Best.
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