Sex | Loving Husband Gives Her The Cold Shoulder After They Have Sex

Q: My husband is kind, gentle and affectionate. Except after sex. The sex itself is fine, but the next day, he often is cold and distant toward me. After a day, he goes back to his normal, loving self. He acknowledges he has a problem, but says he doesn't know why. I asked if I was doing things he didn't like during sex, and he said no. I even tried to joke about it and asked if he had another wife and felt guilty, which he thought was funny but solved nothing. Is counseling the answer? Have you ever come across this?

STEVE: I've heard of guys giving a woman the cold shoulder after a one-night stand, but that shouldn't happen with a loving couple. Men do have hormonal drop-offs after sex and that can alter mood, but if you love someone, that shouldn't be expressed as coldness. Ask your husband to have a chat with his doctor about this. If that doesn't produce a solution, counseling is a good next step.

MIA: I'm with Steve. Your husband needs to talk with a professional. And you get props for being so understanding.

Steve is a 50-something married man who's been around the block. Mia is a younger, recently married woman with an altogether different attitude. They may not agree, but they have plenty of answers. For answers e-mail S M@phillynews.com or write: SM c/o Daily News, 400 N. Broad St., Philadelphia, PA 19130.