The love life of many Christchurch people has become another casualty of the earthquakes which have rocked the city since September, says a Christchurch sex therapist and counsellor.
Helen Mounsey said she was dealing with many clients who had lost their sex drive or had a lower libido because of the trauma of the earthquakes.
Loss of homes, jobs and security, the needs of frightened children and sleepless nights, were all making it hard for couples even to find time to be alone together, she told The New Zealand Herald.
"We are all looking to return to normal. And that means we are wanting connection. We need safety first, and we need safety with our partner."
It was not necessarily just women whose libidos had taken a hammering in the barrage of quakes, Ms Mounsey said.
Many of her patients were upset their partner was not seeking them sexually.
"People are uncertain, so both parties are going to feel uncertain and preoccupied about their future and their lives and their homes. They are going to perhaps have conflict about decisions that they are making."
She said they would sleep less and be tired and broken sleep raised the irritability level and lowered tolerance levels.
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