Sex | Sex And Relationships: Male And Female Perceptions

Sex and Relationships: Male and Female perceptions
Man only sex woman - just a romantic relationship. Who have never heard such remarks? And indeed, from it looks like they came from different planets: a man from Mars, women - are from Venus.
Of course, men and women differ from each other, but sometimes they even do not realize how deep this difference. Very often women are treated with mistrust and skepticism of men, claiming that men have only one sex is constantly on his mind. They just do not understand that it is through the intimate relationship between a man able to truly determine how strong their feelings for their partner. That sex allows for men to know how much they want to be with one or another woman.
It is a harmonious sex allows for men to find true love, while most women begin to experience strong sexual attraction to specific partners only after they learned of his "closer" that is imbued with his inner world, only after they felt that this is "their man". It often happens that a man wants sex at some point, but the woman for him is not ready yet and then the man just does not understand why he was rejected: he begins to look for causes around anything, but just not in the psychology of women.
Of course a man can feel that he is loved and just through the appropriate behavior of women, through her attitude towards him, but really the feeling that you are loved, comes to man only through the beautiful, harmonious sex with my girlfriend.
However, it is not so simple is with women. For them, too harmonious sex allows both to know "the other side of the coin" in the love that is to look at the little man from a different angle. Often love hunger in her soul finds its saturation through the understanding of how passionately her lover wants her, as he is gentle with her in moments of intimacy.
In fact, sex - is the thing that separates a romantic friendship between men and women from marital and romantic relationships. After all, in that sexual relations were harmonious and warm is not enough to follow sexual instincts, which are incorporated in our mother nature. In modern society, sex plays a much bigger role than he played for the previous generations. Not far to seek - remember, a lot of you were discussing on the souls of the secrets of sexual relations with their parents and grandparents? And indeed, modern society imposes its demands for sex, as it dictates their skills and code of conduct in the bed, even though previous generations it was all very different.
Good sex is important for both sexes. For men it is important to feel that his partner sex with him no less pleasant than for himself. Men often apathetic and listless mood when they see their partner's cool enough to relate to sexual relations with them. Women's really good sex is no less important than for men, but a strong need for it arises from them, when there are spiritual experiences, when the platonic love has arrived.
Always interesting to note the following fact - it applies to most men (in my experience) - in early sexual relations with a partner, many are more mechanical in nature and the process of proximity does not last long, while the women all happens the other way. Let me explain with an example: say, when a young man returning from a trip, he wants as quickly as possible to master his young wife, he feels this strong demand, while for women are often more important to first communicate, learn all the exciting news from her husband before proceed to intimacy. Failure to understand this simple difference in the psychology of the sexes can mislead a man, causing him syndrome "rejected", and a woman - a sense that it openly used, not even herself, but only her body.
It is important to note that when a man comes to feel love from him as soon as there is a strong sexual attraction to the object of his love, and it sometimes takes a lot of effort to restrain themselves when dealing with a beloved woman, "not to dismiss his hands." This is exactly what pushes many women in the misconception that men from them only online, although it does not suck like that. Men are actually just as women need love, only women first undergo spiritual experiences, fantasies, and then, through them, come to demand a sexual relationship with his object of love, and men vice versa - through sexual attraction comes to the need for spiritual emotsonalnom sense of his partner.
Thus, once a woman begins to realize the true motives that move men through the expression of their sexuality, she immediately starts looking for men "from another angle," and begins with the understanding to perceive male behavior.
We all know how the majority of women are important conversations "heart to heart", feeling that the partner empathizes with it, its joys and defeats in life. When a woman feels spiritually emotional intimacy with your partner - then comes to her need for sexual intimacy with this particular person. Proverb which says that the way to a man's heart is through his stomach disingenuous. In fact, a smart, she understands that we're not talking in the stomach, and in herself, in her attitude to men. For men it is important to realize that a woman needs his support and the support that she hopes his life. If a man comes home after a hard day at work tired and his wife have only to show him affection and care about him, and fatigue as the lift arm. Just as a thirsty man in the wilderness, experiencing pleasure at the thought of a glass of water, also a man feels a strong emotional feelings in sex with the woman I love.
So what's all the same sex can be called harmonious? Once I made love on the nature of a young man with whom at that time I have met almost a year. When the "deal" was done, he suddenly began to fall asleep my compliments: that in life did not experience such feelings and such a strong orgasm had never experienced and all that. It seems to me he was expecting such a reaction, but I did not want to dissemble and I confessed to him that nothing directly in this particular sexual act did not really find it, BUT I felt terribly pleasant feeling that after a year of close contact, when it would seem people already know how flaky and did not particularly udish, his rise to such strong emotions: this is evidently was what could be called sex with a capital letter: that is to say I liked egoo behavior and feelings, while the very "mechanical" side of the issue to me not particularly liked. It was after this point, I began thinking about what still makes sex real sex and came to the conclusion that this is love (with a capital letter!).
In general, if you meditate on the theme of sexual relations between men and women want to note that for many women (and for me in particular!), In addition to the emotional that is spiritual union with a partner is an important factor in the fact of how man understands and feels the sexual needs of women.
I want to share with you my opinion, although perhaps men would not agree with me, but nevertheless, I said to myself is the fact that many men consider themselves to be almost super-duper experts in the field of sex, although in reality little that it make sense. I do not mean that they do not know what movements to do. I mean, what they really are not very clear idea of what to do to bring a woman to orgasm.
If you are a man you would say: "Ha, yeah how can I know if I'm not a woman?" And in general today are often in conversations with men I hear, they say he met a girl and all would be nothing but a bed, "log", frigid and I'm sorry for the poor. Moreover, these men tend to blame anyone and anything, but just not himself, that they have not managed to wake up a woman. I am here at all recently, a young guy just bit on the spot its immediacy: that he suddenly found out: think about it !.... that his girlfriend strokes his and in a place where she would like to see he stroked her: for him it was just shock, because his whole adult life believed that women were only interested in stroking his penis. Generally obtained the interesting thing: if a man is important to quickly make "work", for women the opposite - the slower the process, the more sense. In general, I want to say that women do not like when men become like animals and that is called, does not make love, but just having sex in a hurry.
Another interesting fact that is worth mentioning: the men get the peak of his pleasure at the moment when the voltage drops is with the release of sperm, women have the same (is convinced that the majority!) orgasm just increases with increasing voltage during intercourse.
Another interesting option is the difference between men and women - sexual confidence. In my memory is not one case where a seemingly confident, "experienced" sexually man, building from a real macho suddenly became very notorious and fearful after the woman with whom he had intimate relations, he suddenly made his candid remarks with respect to its equipment in the bed or the size of genitals. I say this to ensure that emphasize how, as I understand it, is important in this matter for a man support of the woman. If he has it all in bed, teaches a five-plus, then to where he or she would not tell other women about his shortcomings in the sexual plan can only bring a smile on his face.
Generally it is very important to talk. Talk openly and purity.
Can not be afraid or embarrassed to ask partner about what and how to make love in bed. This is normal and natural, so - not ugly.
And on the contrary, the lack of dialogue in this area can lead to tragic consequences. I do not want to say that necessarily, but thought worth it. Here, for example a friend of mine at the institute was almost not recently separated from her husband, while married were already several years and know their families is considered a model of an exponential pair (looked good and it seemed to get along). My question about what actually happened at one of the "Hen", being drunk, she suddenly confessed to me that six months ago, accidentally slept in the country with a guy whom she'd known since childhood and with whom she had a first platonic love. So, during sex, he perfectly felt her gently and tactfully asked to suggest what she likes, and eventually a week later she looked at her husband's already quite a different light and realized that their relations have always been a pretty cool character. Though, probably, most women still subconsciously believe that the same man, in whom they will fall unconscious, must be sufficiently visionary and sensitive to have known what was happening and how she likes to do it. Many men need help in the physical side, for example, many men take Viagra Soft .
Despite the fact that such a There is an opinion among women sometimes faced with a young man who seemed to fit in all respects except for the above woman begins to subconsciously seek to guide their choice of more intelligence rather than emotions as if reassuring himself that are still ahead, and they say the man will be exactly as she imagines him in his dreams. The most dangerous thing here is that trying to maintain such a man beside him all kinds of "truths, untruths," women are often in proximity simulates the receipt of an orgasm, although in reality it does not suffer. This is one of the mistakes being committed by a woman in the intimate life of good intentions. Much better, in my opinion, do not be afraid of frank dialogue with each other, even to read together books on sexual topics on the weekends, if you will - but do not prevent such errors.
You may say that everything is great, but when it is best to start a conversation with a woman? The answer is simple: certainly not in the process of having sex. It is better to ask a couple of intriguing questions immediately after sex or during foreplay, when a woman is able to give a clear answer yet.
Such conversations are incredibly important, though, because both men and women tend to thinking the few things about relationships on their own and do not always correct conclusions. For me, at one time was a revelation to see that statements like "I'm not ready," "not to touch me like that, it hurts," you're not doing it "and so on can be very sensitive men in terms of their male pride. The same time, many women simply infuriates when a man after having sex turns to the side and falls asleep. It is at that moment, when a woman wants to experience again and again!
Now let's talk about how men and women assess their success or not success in sex.
Men, in my experience, tend to determine their success or not success in sex on the number of orgasms that women experience, spending the night with them. If a woman during intercourse shows no signs of orgasm, for men it is a signal that things are not the glory of God. But this is not always the case in a man, because unlike men, who can experience orgasm as a result of each sex, women may experience its not every time, although this does not mean that sex without orgasm, it is unpleasant. But what makes a harmonious sex so memorable, that distinguishes it from conventional ("standard") sex?
If you spend a poll on the topic of men and women, you will find pretty interesting answers. For example, men tend to talk more here about how much effort it cost them to bring the woman up to the present ecstasy, while women on the contrary - will focus more on the emotional side of himself earlier sexual intercourse, rather than the physiological process itself.
Men and women tend to the same, but do so completely opposite ways. Therein lies the main cause of misunderstanding of the sexes. Let's take a closer listen to each other, not only to your feelings, but feelings partner!